Find Christ in Your Heartbreak

Heartbreak, it keeps you up at night and makes you unable to get out of bed during the day. It makes you cry yourself sick and scream till you have no voice. It makes you long for love and curse every happy person you see. It offends your pride and makes you question your worth. It causes you to distrust people yet seek out their approval. Its gut wrenching and life altering. It’s hope shattered and love rejected. And unfortunately … it’s everywhere.

It’s in the husband whose wife has left him for another man. It’s in the wife who is watching her relationship with her husband be replaced by his work. It’s in the child who has grown up with an absentee parent. It’s in the widow who watched the love of her life die of cancer. It’s in the woman who has given herself to another man who didn’t value her enough to stick around. Heartbreak – it’s a silent killer. It kills your hopes and dreams, your self-esteem, your goals, and your belief of the good in people and the good in you. It can even kill your faith and shake your trust in God.

Why has God let this happen? We often get tunnel vision when in pain. We can’t always see past the heartache to the world Jesus is holding up so we can deal with the hurt. Sometimes we don’t recognize that while he didn’t stop our pain from happening he gave us the perfect best friend to cry to or put that pastor, who can help you pray through your struggles, at the door to greet you this morning. We can’t always see that he took care of our finances so when we were wrecked from losing a loved one we could afford to just grieve. We don’t want to be bothered with the mother who is quoting the scripture about waiting for marriage that God gave her for our situation. We reject the wonderful stepfather the Lord sent us because we are too busy hoping that one day our “real dad” may want us back. The pain, the loss the regret it’s all too overwhelming to see past.

So how do we stop the hurt? How do we move past the debilitating feeling of loss? How do we ignore the rejection of love and regain some feeling of self worth? The truth is there is no magic way of healing your pain. There is no set of instructions that is going to take away the hurt, but I can tell you where to start; look for God in your situation, look past pain and find where he’s holding you together. He has not forsaken you, he’s there.  Keep praying and he will heal you. Forgive the person who did you wrong and allow yourself to be free of the power they hold over you. Remember hurt people hurt people; your forgiveness may be what they need to heal. And in the mean time while you still feel the hurt … Just have faith. I know sometimes that phrase makes you physically ill. I know that you feel like you have been running on faith and you just can’t do it anymore. I know that while you are trying to believe in God’s timing and promises deep down you feel he is rejecting you. But I promise he still loves you, he still wants the best for you. He still wants you to depend on him and know that he is worthy of your faith. God will not fail you, he will not give up on you, he will not abandon you, he will not reject you. Have faith, follow his way and know that joy is to come, the heartbreak is only temporary. Give God your heart and let him mend it for you, he will care for it like the precious gift it is.